Holiday Self-Care

November 2023

“All that really belongs to us is time; even he who has nothing else has that.” — Baltasar Gracian

It’s Beginning to Look A Lot Like … Busy

Ah, the holidays, a time for joy, relaxation, and self-care! Right?!?

Embrace the joy of the season but raise your hand if the thought of the holidays doesn’t bring relaxation and self-care to mind. There is a (not so) subtle expectation that for one or two days a year, we are supposed to create a Norman Rockwell-type experience where no one bickers, the kids behave, the turkey is perfect, the Easter serving dishes don’t break, and Uncle George isn’t tipsy in the garage. All the other days of the year, we are possibly just doing our best to pay bills, chauffeur the kids around, work, and navigate life in general.  Family gatherings can be anxiety producing. Maybe not for everyone, but the holidays ARE stressful, for a few reasons. And, if there is a recent loss included, it can be extra challenging to know what to do. Keep the traditions the same or do something completely different? Grieving people may not feel like celebrating a holiday at all while others find great comfort in continuing traditions. There is no right or wrong way for any of it. There is only what feels most nurturing.

We ALL deserve relaxation and self-care every day, but certainly during the holidays.

Here are a few ideas to help with that:

1. Take a break. Give yourself permission to take a break from your regular holiday routine and obligations. Set aside some time each day to relax, unwind, and recharge. Whether it’s reading a book, taking a bath, or simply sitting in silence, make sure to prioritize your well-being. Keep in mind, however, that planning self-care can be exhausting, so do what feels easiest and best. Sometimes, nothing at all is the best way to recharge.

2. Connect with loved ones, if it feels right. The holidays can be a perfect opportunity to spend quality time with the people you care about. Reach out to family and friends, plan virtual gatherings or socially distanced activities if necessary, and try to strengthen your connections. Sharing laughter and creating memories can be incredibly rejuvenating.

3. Practice gratitude. Take a moment each day to reflect on the things you are grateful for. Gratitude can shift your focus to the positive aspects of your life and bring a sense of contentment. Consider keeping a gratitude journal or sharing your gratitude with others. It’s a simple yet powerful way to boost your well-being.

4. Engage in self-reflection. Use this time to reflect on the past year and set intentions for the future. The concept of intentions instead of resolutions seems so much more friendly and doable. In reflection, ask yourself what you’ve learned, what you’re proud of, and what you want to improve. Embrace this opportunity for personal growth and make plans to pursue your passions and dreams in the coming year.

5. Engage in activities that bring you joy. Whether it’s baking, painting, dancing, or playing an instrument, make time for activities that lighten your heart. Engaging in hobbies and creative outlets can be a wonderful form of self-care, allowing you to express yourself and find fulfillment.

6. Be gentle with yourself. Putting expectations aside, remember that you are doing the best you can in all you do. Be mindful of the negative self-talk and the need for perfection. Sometimes self-care isn’t about candles or reading or massages. Perhaps it is about treating yourself kindly.

Remember, self-care is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. Prioritize your well-being this holiday season and make time for the things that recharge your mind, body, and soul.

Be Well …

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